Thursday, September 17, 2009

COOL WORKSHOP: CREATIVE PROCESS / CREATIVE SURVIVAL

Creative Process/Creative Survival
(How to thrive creatively when it feels like your work doesn't matter.)


Ready for some inspiration to boost you through the last quarter? Register now for this unique opportunity to learn the 15 Secrets of Personal Creativity with Dr. Eric Maisel and 6 tools for Creative Survival with Rahti Gorfien.

Where: The Field, 161 Avenue of the Americas @ Spring Street, 14th Floor in NYC
When: September 22nd

Time: 6-9:30PM

Cost: $65/$55 for Field Members.

50% non-refundable deposit required; pay in full when you reserve for a 10% discount!

When I think of creativity-related life coaching, there are two names that come to mind: Julia Cameron (The Artists Way) and Eric Maisel (The Van Gogh Blues). While The Artist Way really kicked off my fascination with the creative process, I actually studied Creativity Coaching with Dr. Maisel. So you can imagine how honored I was to be approached by Eric to do a workshop in the Fall! Eric will speak on what he refers to as The 15 Secrets of Personal Creativity, and I'll be leading some group coaching around issues that pertain to Creative Survival. Don't miss this unique opportunity to resolve some core creative issues: Eric isn't often in New York, and this will be an intimate event as THERE ARE ONLY 15 SEATS AVAILABLE. SOOO... it's not too early to reserve now and insure first dibs on enrollment! RSVP: gorfien@gmail.com

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

SUSTAINABLE FLATBUSH HOSTS 3RD ANNUAL PARK(ING) DAY THIS FRIDAY

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(This post reproduced from Sustainable Flatbush)

Ever wonder what our community could do with 120 square feet of outdoor space? Bring friends and family along to find out as Sustainable Flatbush hosts our 3rd annual Park(ing) Day event on Friday, September 18th, from 9am until 6pm.

To raise awareness of how public space is allocated in our neighborhood, we will transform an unremarkable parking spot into “Cortelyou Road Park”: an urban oasis with grass, lawn chairs, music, art supplies, games, and good conversation for all to enjoy, at the corner of Cortelyou and Argyle Roads, in front of the Public Library.

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Two sustainable craft businesses based in the NYC area – Garbage of Eden Design and RePlayGround – will teach free creative workshops on fashioning fun stuff out of garbage. We invite you to bring your favorite empty cereal box or designed scrap paper to personalize your crafts. Jewelry made from plastic bags and yogurt containers as well as kits to make projects from scrap will be on display. You could even win a food gift basket from the Flatbush Food Coop, which is also graciously providing free snacks throughout the day! Join us for this international event at the level of our local neighborhood. Meet your neighbors and those working within our community who strive to make it a more livable place.

Last year’s event was a great success. This year we plan to outdo it with:

  • * A special Puppet Show featuring the juggling egg puppet by Ronny starting at 11am
  • * Craft workshops by Garbage of Eden Design and RePlayGround
  • * A worm composting demonstration by a Brooklyn Botanic Garden Master Composter
  • * A solar-powered cell phone charging station
  • * BYO Mug Coffee Station, courtesy of Vox Pop Cafe

So bring your own mug and don’t miss the daylong fun!

WHAT: Park(ing) Day / Cortelyou Road Park
WHEN: Friday, September 18th from 9am until 6pm
WHERE: Corner of Cortelyou and Argyle Roads, Brooklyn NY

Park(ing) Day 2008 photos by Keka Marzagao

SPIKE LEE & THE CULTURE PROJECT PRESENT: COUNTY OF KINGS

County of Kings is set in Sunset Park, during the most influential cultural movement of our time -- the birth of hip-hop; taking the audience back to the days of B-boys, tracksuits, Adidas, and Boogie Down Productions.

Written and performed by Brooklyn-born Puerto Rican poet Lemon Andersen, the show gives a tough, yet moving biographical account of a good kid growing up in an unforgiving environment. Mixing difficult drama and occasional humor with his own brand of urban poetry, Lemon uses his unique perspective and talent to bring his own coming-of-age story to life.

Lemon Andersen is best known from his regular appearances on HBO’s Def Poetry presented by Russell Simmons, and as an original cast member and writer of the TONY award-winning Def Poetry Jam on Broadway. He can also be seen opposite Denzel Washington in Spike Lee’s Inside Man, and is featured in The Soloist, starring Jamie Foxx and Robert Downey, Jr.

The show will begin its run at the Public Theater on October 12th, with previews starting September 29th. ALL tickets for preview performances are $25!

For all other performances (not including opening night), a limited number of tickets will be sold for $25, cash only, at the box office.

County of Kings
plays Tuesday through Sunday at The Public Theater’s Newman Stage, 425 Lafayette Street. For a full schedule, please visit www.countyofkingstheplay.com.


“Lemon is a young man who possesses a wealth of talent and he knows how to tell a story. He joins the legacy of storytellers from Brooklyn.” - Spike Lee

“Mr. Andersen has a gift for rhythmic time-capsule set pieces that capture the flavor of a moment in history, turning bold-face and brand names into propulsive song.” – New York Times

A “wonderfully moving hip-hop autobiography” – Variety

Monday, September 14, 2009

MYTH: WRITERS ARE LONERS

When Mike and I were out in Block Island, we discovered their amazing local library. It was one of the friendliest, most welcoming libraries I had ever been in. One evening, we went in for an appearance by author Roy Rowan, who wrote the book First Dogs: American Presidents and Their Best Friends.

Since there were some children there, I asked Mr. Rowan what advice he had for young writers. He responded: "Get used to spending a lot of time alone."

I thought it was kind of a shame that he answered that way. Sure, solitude is part of a writer's life. But, contrary to popular belief, writers don't have to be lone wolves to get their work done.

Take today, for example. I got my whole newsletter done by bookending writing sessions with social appointments. I got the rough draft done in two hours, went out to meet someone, came back, edited everything, hung out with Mike for supper, and then sent out the newsletter via email.


I find that I write in a more focused and effective way if I know that work will be interspersed by social interactions, especially ones that take place outside the home office. That's how I get my energy and inspiration!


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Friday, September 11, 2009

DO CALL IT A COMEBACK (THE POWER OF A NAP)

Ever since I came back from Block Island, where my boyfriend proposed to me, I have been exhausted beyond belief, as in I Can Barely Make It Through the Day. Something about getting my head around this big new change in my life and all the implications of it.

Then, to add to that overwhelm, I began to simultaneously plan TWO wedding ceremonies, one of which was originally to take place in less than two months from now.

What the hell was I thinking?

I cancelled the Two Months from Now event.

With the exhaustion now came a set of interesting physical issues which included a rapid onslaught of allergic symptoms that made me feel like I had a really bad cold all the time. I couldn't stand it anymore, so I finally hauled my butt to the doctor's office. From there, I went out to lunch with two girlfriends who offered advice about weddings. Which just confused and overwhelmed me even more.

I came home from all that, and my body basically shut down. I pulled down the winter comforter from the closet, tossed it on the futon, and buried myself beneath it for a good hour. It was like being in my own personal cave.

Once I got out of the cave and had a few bites of salad, a wave of new energy and inspiration came over me. I started to tidy and re-organize my home office. I baked cookies for my friend's birthday and hand-designed a personalized tin to house the cookies. I cleaned off my desk and also installed those suction cup thingies you put on the shower wall tiles to hold shampoos and such.

While baking the cookies, I watched multiple episodes of the reality show Say Yes to the Dress, which features the dramas of the brides and their accompanying friends/family who come in to pick the bridal dress. Mike watched it with me and I let him have some of the gift cookies.

I said "Even though I might need some time to decide what to do for our wedding, I still love you!" He looked kind of skeptical, so I handed him a few more cookies.

I'm feeling a lot better now. Thank G-d for big comforters and naps!

WHAT I LOVE


Dachsunds

Dogs and the funny things they do

Hot pink and purple
Color

Fashion

Costumes

The inside of Woodstock’s (Snoopy's friend) birdhouse (he has hydroponic headphones and a recessed livingroom)

Design

Quiet restaurants w yummy food

Glitter

Flowers

Dance

Dancing

Lofts and loft-like spaces

Gardens

The ocean

Big clean swimming pools

Fountains

Napping

Laughing

Making people laugh

Candles

Stationary, cards

Stamps

Writing and sending greeting cards and care packages

Choosing and sending gifts, including flowers

Luxury hotels

Magazines

Books

Bookstores

Thinking, dreaming, reading and writing on airplanes

Massages, facials, etc.

Spas

Perfume counter in dept stores

Comedy

Chris Rock

Ellen DeGeneres

Children’s picture books

Stuffed animals

The Lizzy McGuire Movie

Upbeat, hopeful “go for your dream” movies

Dance-themed Movies

Hanging out with Cecilia’s family

Sharing meals with friends, esp. lunch

My artists' support group

Introducing people to each other

Bringing people together

Making friends

Wooden bowls, plates, spoons, etc.

SoHo

Chinatown

Chocolate

Rooftop gardens / balconies

Ugly Betty

America's Best Dance Crew

So You Think You Can Dance

Everybody Hates Chris

Children's picture books

Teen pop culture

Music

Being generous

Being recipient of generosity

Glamour and elegance

Serendipity

Spontanaeity

Being in nice homes

Reading home décor mags and books

Welcoming people

Pageantry/parades/performance

Lobbies of hotels and nice apartment buildings

Looking for and finding treasures – people and things

Peanuts specials

Following the lead of young people in play

Wall calendars

Japanese stationery

Snuggling

Appreciating people

Being appreciated

Meeting other artists

Being inspired

Inspiring others

Shopping

Organizing my home office

Cutting stuff out of magazines and putting it up on walls

The upper east side

Cafeterias in muesems

Gift shops in museums

Going to cultural Events

Reading about arts and culture

Inspiring stories and images of women atheletes

Reading horoscopes

Reading about celebs, philanthropists, artists, interesting people

Hearing about and knowing elders who live vibrant lives

My Peanuts Birthday/Anniverary Book

Stickers

My boyfriend’s impromptu performances

My impromptu performances

Beauty parlors

Getting my hair done

Watching award shows – Oscars, MTV Music Awards

Choreographing dances

Creating puppet "music video" shows

Making order out of chaos

Making chaos out of order

ATTENTION BROOKLYN FOODIES: COME TO THE SEPTEMBER 12 GRAND OPENING OF THE LITTLE BUDDY BISCUIT COMPANY




When is the Grand Opening of Little Buddy Biscuit Company?

Saturday, September 12th

11 am – 1 pm

635 Fifth Avenue at 18th Street


What are Little Buddy Store Hours?

Monday - Friday 7am - 5:30 pm

Saturday 8 am - 6 pm

Sunday 9:30am – 4:30 pm


What's Little Buddy All About?
Little Buddy Biscuit Company, a Brooklyn-based micro bakery specializing in handcrafted baked goods made in small batches, has just opened its first storefront establishment in South Slope at 635 Fifth Avenue at 18th Street. The shop will feature an array of Little Buddy cookies, brownies, cakes, cupcakes, muffins, quick breads, and savory items, a selection of vegan goods, as well as ice cream from artisanal purveyor, Jane’s Ice Cream of Kingston, New York (served in all the best restaurants of the Hudson Valley but available only in a handful of city establishments), and specialty fair trade organic Equal Exchange coffee as well as tea selections from SerendipiTea.


What Goodies Does the Store Offer?
* Traditional favorites like Chewy Oatmeal Raisin and Chocolate Chunk
* Artful combinations like Orange Cardamom with Coconuts and Macadamia and Molasses Spice with Crystallized Ginger
* An Almond Oat Breakfast Cookie that appeals to vegans and non-vegans alike
* Creative spins on butter cookies, brownies, ganache and buttercream-frosted cupcakes, cakes, scones, muffins, crumb buns and savory biscuits

What's The Story Behind Little Buddy Biscuit Company?
Little Buddy Biscuit Company is the creation of baker Pete Solomita, who, while visiting local cafés wit his then-infant son, Jack (the original “little buddy”), found finding a great cookie to go with his coffee a challenge. It was at that time that Pete was also seeking to combine his creativity as a musician (drummer and DJ) with his experience as a chef to develop a business. The Little Buddy Biscuit Company was soon born in the top floor apartment of his Brooklyn house where as a stay-at-home Dad, Pete spent months developing and testing recipes which resulted in a line of handcrafted cookies that he started selling to several Brooklyn cafés and catered events. Using high quality, natural ingredients and blending tradition and innovation—putting modern twists on classic recipes, “gourmet but not fussy”—Little Buddy Biscuit Company quickly developed a cult following. Fans asked for other desserts and Pete responded with an array of treats from brownies to cakes.


After four years of wholesale business, Pete began to seek out space for a retail store - focusing on the South Slope area where he and his wife, Jill, have called home for 30 years. Reminiscing about his childhood on Long Island, with a local ice cream shoppe as the focal point, Pete sought to recreate a space that would harken back to those days. He found that space in a vacant storefront that formerly housed Regina Bakery. Pete and Jill, an art director, then set out to capture their signature vision for this neighborhood establishment - an inviting and fun environment for people to enjoy, which even includes a mascot, Mr. Bisky.


Who is Pete Solomita?

Pete graduated from the Natural Gourmet Institute for Health, where he received his culinary training. Prior to that, he worked for more than twenty years in the nonprofit sector, using music as a tool to empower the lives of people living with disabilities. Pete’s sense of community and love of Brooklyn are both integral parts of Little Buddy Biscuit Company. He finds that his passion for both food and music share parallels of creativity, improvisation, and focus. For Pete, food and music also reflect his commitment to enjoying life while bringing pleasure to others. His enthusiasm is evident in his ceaseless energy to experiment with new recipes, and his passion for bringing something new to the neighborhood and to Brooklyn


Where Can I Go to Find More Info About Little Buddy?
Please visit the Little Buddy Biscuit Company Website or read Pete's Blog Groovalicious in Brooklyn

For all press inquiries, please contact Josie Diels 917-514-0485 Josiediels@verizon.net

NEW HAPPINESS PROJECT BOOK ART UNVEILED

Gretchen Rubin, founder of The Happiness Project, just released the book art for her new book!

Wednesday, September 09, 2009

BROOKLYN ORGANIZER AT YOUR SERVICE!

NOW IS THE PERFECT TIME TO GET ORGANIZED!

Hey there busy New York moms, artists, and professionals!

I'd be delighted to help you:

* Cut down on clutter

* Create more space for you and your family

* Learn and implement simple time and paper management tools.

Call today to chat about your organizing needs!
917-499-7395

Tuesday, September 08, 2009

MY NEPHEW CATCHES AIR!

LITTLE THINGS MEAN A LOT

Mike and I have been planning two weddings at once. We're having festivities in both Southern California and here in New York. It's an interesting journey, laden with emotion. I wake up every morning now at 5:00 with my mind racing.

How do you stay true to who you are and what you're about and still take into account all the folks who are also part of the process? Our families have been extremely supportive and our friends so genuinely pleased with the step we have decided to take.

Right before we met with the lovely Kim Meier who runs The Old Stone House, to talk about wedding options, Mike handed me a couple of wonderful gifts from Kinokuniya, a Japanese store located behind Bryant park. One was a 2010 dachsund wall calendar, and the other was Japanese stickers featuring cartoon-like bunnies and bears. It was such a sweet gesture, and kind of broke up the intensity around all the planning.

Little things mean a lot - the few kind words, the small gestures, the tiny gifts.

I am sure loving my boyfriend turned fiance!

Saturday, September 05, 2009

IRONDALE CENTER PRESENTS: MACBETH VARIATIONS II

The Irondale Center presents

The Strike Anywhere Performance Ensemble & Anitya

in the world premiere of

MACBETH VARIATIONS II

@ Irondale

October 1 – 3, 2009


“An event that brings together musicians, puppeteers, dancers, and actors in an audacious version of Shakespeare's Macbeth. Shakespeare would have been proud of this modern take of his classic”

-Daniel Brown, Radio France


What: Macbeth Variations II: a Shakespeare Soundpainting (Performed in French & English)

Who: Strike Anywhere Performance Ensemble (NYC) & Anitya (Paris, France)

When: October 1, 2, 3 at 8pm

Where: Irondale Center, 85 South Oxford Street, Brooklyn, NYC. Directions: www.irondale.org

Cost: $20-$40 (Sliding Scale) Tickets can be purchased online: www.strikeanywhere.info


BROOKLYN, NEW YORK, OCTOBER 1-3, 2009 - The Irondale Center, who are establishing themselves as one of Brooklyn’s leading performing arts laboratory and performance spaces, opens their 09/10 season with the critically acclaimed Strike Anywhere Performance Ensemble and their international collaborators Anitya in the world premiere of Macbeth Variations II, a dynamic performance event combining physical theater, improvised music, dance and a live-composing sign language called Soundpainting.

Macbeth Variations II is a set of improvised inter-disciplinary compositions exploring Shakespeare's play Macbeth. Just as jazz musicians improvise on jazz standards finding infinite variety within classic tunes, improvisers use Shakespeare's text as the melody from which they depart. The result is a highly-charged interdisciplinary performance event that is different every night. The piece is the perfect compliment to the mission of Irondale who strive to provide an enviroment where performance boundaries can be pushed and work with a social conciousness can be produced. This is the Irondale Center’s second season in their new space, and they are thrilled to host companies such as Strike Anywhere & Anitya who represent a new wave of experimental work today.

“Strike Anywhere Performance Ensemble merges music, theater, improvisation, and structured composition into a total multi-media experience – a ‘happening’ in which art leaps off the wall and into the seat next to us.” - Asbury Park Press

About Macbeth Variations II

Macbeth Variations II is the second stage of an international collaboration between NYC-based Strike Anywhere and Paris-based ANITYA. The performance features on-stage conductors who sculpt the improvisation through the complex language of Soundpainting. Soundpainting is the live composing sign language created by New York composer Walter Thompson for musicians, dancers, and actors. In May 2009, the Irondale Center hosted the pioneer of Soundpainting, Walter Thompson, in an incredible world premiere composition featuring acclaimed musician Anthony Braxton. Irondale is fast becoming the leading presenter of this type of performance work and both Strike Anywhere Performance Ensemble and ANITYA are the foremost practitioners of Soundpainting in their respective countries.

About Irondale

The Irondale Center is the permanent home of the Irondale Ensemble, a 26 year old Theater Company comprised of professional theater artists who have a commitment to creating theater and education programs that explore emerging themes in our society. The Center is also a multi-discipline laboratory for the work of other artists and companies. Ensemble members manage, and curate the Center, nurturing and presenting work that contributes to the cultural, social and educational life of the community. For more information please visit: www.irondale.org

Monday, August 31, 2009

ENGAGED!

Last Monday, I took the subway and the train and the ferry to get to Block Island, Rhode Island.

I didn't sleep the night before we left. And I didn't sleep the first night we were there. It was like I knew on some level that something big was about to happen.

On the third day into the vacation, Mike and I took a morning bike ride. We stopped mid-ride at Mohegan Bluffs. That's where you walk down a steep bunch of stairs to a little beach. We walked to one end of the beach, where Mike sat on a big rock as I looked for little interesting rocks and shells in a tidepool-like formation.

After I found 3 little rocks I liked, Mike put his arms around me and said "Look, I found a pretty rock." I looked down at his hand and saw something sparkly. Somewhere in my brain, I think I knew what it was but my mind could still not wrap around it. "What is that?" I asked. I kept looking at it, and it started to sink in. It was a diamond ring. All I could figure out to say was "It's so pretty!" and then cry and then say "It's so pretty!" and then cry and then..........well, you get the picture.

"You make my life better," said Mike.

I could barely focus on the walk back up the steep stairs and on the bike ride back to the rental shack. I was in total shock.

When we got back to the lobby of the inn, I told Raoul, the manager, that Mike and I were engaged. Every time we told the news to someone on the island, they would express open delight.

We both welled up when we called our folks.

It was fun texting and calling our friends from the ferry and train ride back.

Now we're back home and thinking about festivities. I looked in a free wedding guide I picked up at the Y and laughed at photos of men in tuxes smoking cigars and brides sporting bouffant hairdos teased high enough to block out the entire sun. Yeah, I don't think we're going to be going that route. It'll be fun figuring out how to create some memories that reflect who we truly are.

Anyway, please join us in celebrating!

Love,
Eleanor

Sunday, August 23, 2009

AND AWAY WE GO!

Mike and I are going on vacation. Yay! We are going to Block Island.

So no posts from me until after next week. Here are some posts you can look forward to:

* An interview-based article with Lynn Bound, Executive Chef at the Museum of Modern Art

* An interview-based article with Shadra Strickland, a children's book illustrator who recently won The Ezra Jack Keats Award, and The John Steptoe Award for New Talent.

So, dear readers, see you in September! In the meantime, please feel free to browse these other profiles and bits of inspiration:

Meet Kevin Clash, The Man Behind Elmo

Taja Riley, Rising Dance Star

Meeting Eva Zeisel

I Love Text (a post about MOMA which appeared in a New York Times blog)

Atiba Edwards: Leading the Way in the Nonprofit Arts World

Petra Symister: Local Blogging Heroine

Halima and Rachida

Dogs Make the World Go ‘Round

Meeting Eva Zeisel

I Love Text (a post about MOMA which appeared in a New York Times blog)

Atiba Edwards: Leading the Way in the Nonprofit Arts World

Maira Kalman, Creative Heroine

Monday, August 17, 2009

IS PRODUCTIVITY REALLY GETTING YOU MORE FROM LIFE?

Written by Ali Hale in her blog Aliventures

(Photo taken by me, Eleanor, because dogs know about the importance of just being)

If you’ve been reading blogs for a while – especially in the personal development sphere – you’ll have come across a lot of posts about productivity. There are entire blogs devoted to this subject: complete with tips, tricks, systems and hacks to help you become more productive.

But does productivity really give us more? Does it make our lives better? What are the costs of productivity? What are we losing when we try to squeeze more “doing” into every day?

The Smugness of Productivity
Have you ever had a really productive day and felt smug? I don’t mean the quietly satisfied feeling of having done your best and achieved something important to you – but the feeling of being better than all those unproductive people around you.

When I’m honest with myself, I realise there’s an strong element of smugness in my desire to be productive. In an online world where other people’s outputs and achievements are clear to see (or being boasted about), it’s easy to get competitive. Once I wrote ten blog posts in a day. I didn’t especially enjoy it (I was pretty exhausted and “written out” by the end) … but it meant I could brag on Twitter: seven posts done, eight posts done…

I’d like it if I didn’t feel that way. I’d like to be able to say that my occasional over-focus on productivity is a pure, noble one, aimed only at making sure I create as much value as I can.

The productivity world invites a certain holier-than-thou attitude. I’ve been working through Dave Navarro’s 30 Hours a Day recently, an excellent programme, but it does bear a taint of smugness: encouraging the listener to feel that they’re better and stronger than the general mass of humanity who won’t even make it the whole way through a productivity audio program. The very title, “30 Hours a Day” put me off getting the program for a good while: it smacks of this smug productivity culture, suggesting the real super-humans of the productivity world should be cramming an extra six hours of productive work into an already packed day.

(I’m being very one-sided here; the 30 Hours a Day program is excellent, on the whole, and I’ll write a much more balanced review at some point!)

So what’s the problem here? Firstly, no-one likes a smug git (and a lot of people probably secretly think you’re a bit sad). Secondly, if you find yourself trying to be more productive than your partner, colleagues or Twitter followers, your obsession with productivity is likely to be poisoning your relationships – and your own mental health.

Productivity Damages Relationships
In my article on Are You Too Efficient To Be Effective, I quoted Stephen Covey’s words “You simply can’t think efficiency with people.” The danger of productivity is that, for many of us, it’s aligned with a narrow focus on efficiency. We measure our productivity by the out-dated standards of the industrial revolution: it’s all about widgets cranked. (Or blog posts written, or the word count on our novel, or the pure-as-untrodden-snow state of our empty inbox.)

I believe that we can be deeply productive in our relationships: a strong relationship with relatives, colleagues or friends doesn’t just bring joy and meaning into our lives, it can also be a powerful opportunity for greater creativity, greater fruit, than we could ever produce alone. As a friend, mentor, teacher or parent, we help people to grow and flourish – one of the most powerful things we can do.

But an obsession with productivity for productivity’s sake can sour your relationships – with the colleagues who interrupt you, the housemates who distract you, the partner and kids who need your time and attention. If that’s how you find yourself thinking, it might be time to redefine what productivity really means:

If you’re ever trying to balance being productive with hanging out with your kids, it’s time to reevaluate how you’ve framed ‘productivity’. Being a good parent is one of the most meaningfully productive things you can do.

(Charlie Gilkey, Being a Good Parent is Being Productive, Productive Flourishing)

Does Doing More = Happiness?
We all want to get the most out of our lives. Once we’ve satisfied our basic material needs (food, a place to live), we start seeking more: loving relationships; activities which we find deeply satisfying; a purpose in life; fulfilment. A desire to be productive can grow, healthily, from this: our time on the earth is limited, and we want to make the most of it.

But we so often seem to get it wrong:

Our aim to be more productive and increase efficiency can often lead to obsession. We confuse achievement for happiness. Our happiness should be the inspiration for achievement, not the other way around. When our happiness is found in achievement, we get sucked into constantly putting our happiness in the future.

(Jonathan Mead, The Cult of Productivity and the Art of Purposeless Living, Illuminated Mind)

Productivity is all about “doing”: being productive means different things to different people, but all of these involve some end result, whether it’s more money in the bank, more words on the page, or dinner on the table.

Mental health, and spiritual and personal growth, involve “being”. Your character may be revealed through what you do … but the essence of your character is who you are. If you’ve ever tried to grow, to really change and develop who you are, you’ll know that it can be the hardest, most painful – and most worthwhile – work that you will ever do.

I still have a long way to go. I find it very easy to focus on “doing” instead of “being”. I shy away from the real challenges, because I’m so often lazy and afraid. But I’ve seen others take the brave, high, long path in their own lives, and their courage is inspiring. (If you want an example, go and read Joely’s blog, In These Heels? or read about Trent’s financial meltdown and subsequent turn around, or read about Peter’s year of change.)

Productivity is the Easy Way Out
Feeling “productive” can be an easy way to feel that like a good, valuable, useful person, someone who contributes a lot to the world (even if what we’re actually doing isn’t all that significant). It’s like a short-cut to feeling fulfilled – the equivalent of turning to junk food when we’re hungry.

Demonstrating our productivity to others can win us praise. We might even feel that we’ve won a competition, that we’re better than others. This is caused by a cultural paradigm of business, doing more, multi-tasking and efficiency that’s hard to escape:

Because “doing a million things” is impressive. “Doing less” smacks of weakness.

Because “optimizing” sounds intellectual. “Simplifying” sounds like you’re copping out.

If you’re not “too busy” these days, you must be doing something wrong - and while that’s bullshit, that’s still the way our culture sees things.

(Dave Navarro, Goal Addiction and the Cult of Productivity, Rock Your Day)

We get hooked on ticking tasks off a list, because they give us that quick rush of satisfaction. We get obsessive about our work, not only because we enjoy it, but because we feel that “hard” work makes us a better person. The problem is, it’s often not really “hard” – it’s easy drudgery that lets us avoid facing up to things we’d rather not think about: a failing relationship, an unhealthy lifestyle, a chronic lack of self-esteem, dark thoughts we’d rather deny.

Productivity Means Avoiding the Hard and Important Things
Productivity can be an escape. It lets us avoid reflective time. We cut out prayer, meditation, journaling, walking, daydreaming, simply allowing ourselves to “be” … all in the name of productivity. It gives us a convenient excuse to avoid the truly hard work of learning to love ourselves for who we are – and using that love to foster a genuine desire to grow, to become the person who we know we can be.

However much I might dislike my own cowardice or conceit or greed, I went on loving myself. There had never been the slightest difficulty about it. In fact the very reason why I hated the things was that I loved the man. Just because I loved myself, I was sorry to find that I was the sort of man who did those things.

(C.S. Lewis, Mere Christianity)

Productivity can become a mask for feeling empty and lost inside. It can hide a lack of self-worth. It can muffle the nasty little internal voice that whispers we’re not good enough, that tells us that if people really knew what we were like, they’d be horrified.

Productivity as a Mask: My Example
I know that, in my own life, I tend to throw everything into doing when there’s something deeper than needs tackling.

This most often manifest itself in a spiritual context. When my faith is at a low ebb, when I feel far from God, when life has turned a murky grey – I throw myself into church activities: lunches, committees, administrative work, organising things, even serving others. But there’s an emptiness to it. Perhaps I convince others that everything’s okay, and maybe I even convince myself, for a time. But there’s always a point at which I recognise that the doing is an excuse, and that what I need is something that’s much quieter, and much harder.

As with many of my posts on Aliventures, I’ve written this because I needed to read it myself. The process of thinking through and writing this over a couple of days has helped me to question my “productive” efforts, to take a hard look at why I’m using “doing” as an excuse to avoid the deeper questions and challenges. I’m pulling back, to take time to reflect, to journal, and to be. If this post struck a chord with you, if it echoed anything of your own experiences, I’d ask you to give yourself the time, space and freedom to do the same.

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

CHECK OUT THIS NEW BLOG: CULTURAL INFIDEL

My friend Symi Rom-Rymer's new blog is called Cultural Infidel: Unorthodox Musings from Both Sides of the Atlantic.

Says Symi of her blog: "I plan to dive in and discuss the intersection of culture, history, and politics as it relates to Jews and Muslims in Europe and the US as well as anything else that catches my fancy. I welcome and encourage your feedback and look forward to vigorous debate. Please note: all comments will be vetted before being posted. "

On the whole, Symi writes and blogs about minority issues in Western Europe and has had her work in several publications including JTA and The Christian Science Monitor. She received her master’s degree in French cultural studies from Columbia University’s Paris campus.

Monday, August 10, 2009

11 TIPS FOR RUNNING GREAT GROUPS & MEETINGS


WHAT'S GREAT ABOUT LEADING AND BEING PART OF GROUPS

· The live exchange of ideas between all kinds of minds. (Good: Exchanging ideas via the internet. Much Better: Exchanging ideas in the flesh.)

· Accountability and structure.

· The opportunity to make relationships with new and interesting people that I may not have met in the course of my day-to-day routine.

· The chance to contribute to something greater than myself, while also moving forward in my own personal or professional growth.


11 TIPS FOR RUNNING GREAT GROUPS AND MEETINGS

· Even if the group is run via democratic processes, there still needs to be someone who is in charge of thinking about the overall functioning of the group and its members.

· Create a clear purpose or mission statement which you can always come back to when you are evaluating the group’s programs and activities.

· Model the “vibe” you want to create – e.g. as the facilitator, make sure you set a friendly, welcoming tone if that is the mood you want to foster.

· When beginning a group meeting, it’s useful to have a brief activity that allows people to clear their heads and get into the present moment. Sometimes, I’ll have people go ‘round the circle and say something good that happened between the last meeting and the one at hand. One time, when I was moderating a panel, I had audience members introduce themselves to the people sitting around them.

· Give credit where credit’s due. Make sure you publicly thank other folks who help you organize group activities, including meetings.

· When it makes sense, split members off into pairs or groups to brainstorm solutions to problems. Not everyone likes to talk in front of the larger group.

· When facilitating group meetings, make sure that members stay focused on generating solutions and strategies to problems or challenges, not on letting any one person vent at length about a personal issue. Otherwise, you run the risk of running group therapy (which is fine if it is actually group therapy!)

· When having group members brainstorm ideas or solutions, figure out a way to create safety for people. For example, set a ground rule of “No cross talk” – meaning no one can interrupt another person when she is talking or censor another person’s ideas.

· If certain individuals or groups within the group tend to dominate discussions, find some clever ways around that dynamic. When leading trainings for parent volunteers in the public schools, I would sometimes say “Who would like to speak that we haven’t yet heard from?” Often, the super-chatty folks would be silent – at least for a little while!

· Find a balance between theory and practice. At our most recent meetings for women artists and entrepreneurs, the facilitators implemented the agenda in this order:

1. A discussion about the particular challenges women face around being visible in the world

2. A brainstorming session, done in pairs, around strategies we could use (including social networking) to increase our visibility as artists and entrepreneurs

· End group meetings on a positive, upbeat note so folks want to come back next time! Have folks say what they found useful, or what they learned.

AMERICA'S BEST DANCE CREW (ABDC) OFF TO A HOT START

If, like me, you're already in withdrawl and mourning the end of So You Think You Can Dance, take heart! For America's Best Dance Crew premiered last night and wow, is the competition varied and interesting.

Southern Movement is a country western hip-hop group.
Vogue Evolution comes from the underground house/ballroom scene.
AfroBorike brings a Latin American flavor.
Artistry in Motion brings their creation: "contemp-hop"
Beat Ya Feet Kings do crazy fancy fast footwork to music heavy on drum beats

To see all the competing groups, go to the ABDC website.

Saturday, August 08, 2009

JEANINE MASON WINS "SO YOU THINK YOU CAN DANCE"

This article appeared in LaToya's Reality TV Blog on About.com

Thursday August 6, 2009
So You Think You Can Dance has crowned its fifth winner!

Jeanine Mason, 18, waltzed away with the $250,000 prize and the title of America's Favorite Dancer on Thursday night. Jeanine's win came at the end of a fabulous finale, which featured encores of some of the judges' favorite performances from season five -- including the memorable addiction number choreographed by Mia Michaels and the touching breast cancer-themed routine choreographed by Tyce Diorio.

But the hot dance numbers weren't the only exciting part of the show. The eliminations also kept us glued to the screen.